Good News Monday!

It’s Monday. The first Monday of Autumn.  Monday’s are often difficult to appreciate, and even more-so if you live in a northern climate and can feel the onset of the impending deep-freeze. So let’s start this week and this Autumn with some Good News!

My good news: I love being a coach. It embodies so many of my own core values. Knowing that I’m doing what I love helps to face a new week.

What is your Good News?

What’s Stopping You. . . Part 2

We are now well into September, and our routines are, if not settled, then nearly so. Do you still find you’re unable to take those small steps towards achieving your goals? Maybe you just don’t feel like you have the energy to get started after a long day, and need to use your weekends to recuperate. What if you’ve already taken the time to look at and re-evaluate the problem and what you need to fix to keep moving forward and you still can’t see your way forward?

Take a closer look at the situation, the project, and the overall outcome you are hoping for. What is it about the projject that keeps needing to be fixed? Are you tired of it? Is this the project that is going to give you the outcome you desire? Is it worth your time to continue on it? What is it you are really protesting? Is it a wrong step, or would a different project be better for you and get you to your desired outcome?

I encountered this situation this past week. I’ve been working on a project for the last year. Several times I’ve thought I was well on my way to completion and then I’d get stuck. I’d look back at it, figure out where I went wrong, go back to that point and start fresh, only to get stuck again. This happened several times. It got to the point where I dreaded going back to it. and yet I felt the pressure to continue, to finish, because I don’t believe in abandonning projects just becasue it isn’t working out once or twice. But after a year of struggling, I started paying attention to what my mind and body were protesting. The real protest was that this was not the right project for me. I finally decided to set that project aside for now or indefinitely and to work on a new project. I don’t quite know what that will be, but I’m looking forward to it.

Once I made that decision, I felt relief and joy. I knew I’d listened to myself and know what is right for me. And now, for the first time in a few years, I am excited to be working on a new project. It is in the same field and with the goal of the same end result, it is just a different way of getting there.

What is really stopping you from moving forward?

Tolerating the How for the Why

Following up on my blog post “The Satisfaction Equation”, today’s blog is on working with the roadblocks in our way to achieving the career we want.

A number of years ago, I was in a highly stressful job. I enjoyed it, or aspects of it, but I was quickly becoming clinically burnt out, and I knew that it was not where I wanted to ultimately be. I knew where I wanted to go, what I wanted to do, but there was no way I could leave my position, and what I wanted to do didn’t pay well, if at all.

I took a career planning course over several weeks. We did all kinds of aptitude tests and Myers-Briggs tests. I knew my personality, and the aptitude tests, well, I knew I was good at certain things, but that didn’t mean I liked doing them. The tests either gave me bad options or they didn’t asked what I preferred, they asked what I was good at. The results were predictable and not what I wanted.

I spoke with the instructor privately, telling her what I really wanted. She suggested I pursue it. I said, great, but I can’t afford it. She said I should keep my job. And I said, great, but what do I do in the mean-time? She had no answers for me.

Several years later, and a few changes of jobs, and I am finally doing what I love.

The change in the right direction was a very deliberate one.  Recognizing it would take time was the beginning. Giving myself a deadline of 12 months to get out of that job was a close second.

Are you looking to make a major change? Is it something you can make happen right away? If it isn’t, make a list of the roadblocks. How will you overcome each of those obstacles? How long will it take for you to overcome them?

Last week I saw Jillian Michaels on her “Maximize your Life” tour.  Something she said is very true for this situation and I will paraphrase here. Think about the change you want, the end result. If it is worth it, you will tolerate the how for the why. Meaning, if the change is something you really want, if it is worth it, you will tolerate and push through and overcome the obstacles and the possible years before it is realized.

It hasn’t always been easy. There have been a lot of ups and downs and I’ve questioned my decisions many times. But the end result has definitely been worth the rest.

What change are you looking to make? How will you overcome the obstacles toward that change?

Good News Monday!

It’s that time again! Time to Celebrate! Big or small!

My good news: For St. Patrick’s Day, I gave a presentation on my time in Northern Ireland. I LOVE Northern Ireland and it was great to share with others my passion for the place and it’s people. I have amazing friends and family who came to support me.

What’s your Good News!?

Pursuing your Passion, Following your Bliss

The title for this post was a line from the show “Dharma and Greg”, at least that is where I heard it first.

I am blogging today from a rain forest in Washington State where I am spending the weekend pursuing one of my passions: writing. In my other life, that is when I am not coaching, I am a writer. And like most people, lately, life has been getting in the way and my writing has been pushed to the side. This weekend has been a wonderful chance to get away from everything, and just focus on my passion and my bliss.

Whatever your passion is, and your bliss, whatever makes you happiest, I hope you get a chance this weekend to follow it, live it, love it.